There are some people who just love to say “no.”
“Would you like something to eat?”
“Can I help you with that project?”
“Want to go to Vegas?”
For all the naysayers (or in some cases, “no” sayers) out there in the world, there are also the “sure, why not?” and “sign me up” folks who eagerly line up to counterbalance all their negativity. Where do you find them? There must be an app for that. Or them.
While I’m certainly no yes-man (or in my case, a yes-woman), my problem is that I can’t (read: don’t) take “no” for an answer. I really should have been a salesperson. Of course, I said “no” to that job opportunity more than once. I know or, I “no,” or something like that. But I do like to maintain a positive attitude as best as I can. At worst, I say “maybe.” At least I try.
I guess the “yes” and “no” switch is a little different for everyone and is determined by a number of factors. What they are, I have no clue. If it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile, I can’t help but assume that it takes more effort to say “no” than it does “yes.” When I say “yes,” I commit. When I say “no,” I mean it.
A friend of mine has an automatic “no” response built into his brain that’s wired directly to his vocal chords and functions even when he’s fast asleep (not that I know of anyone being “slow asleep,” but I’ll leave that to someone else to ponder). There isn’t a question one can ask him requiring a yes or no answer that doesn’t get met with a Quick-Draw-McGraw-style “no.” A few minutes later he might reconsider his position, but the chances of that are less than one in ten.
Ironically, he considers himself to be an open-minded individual. Unless of course, you were to ask him if he is an open-minded person.
He’d say, “no” in a heartbeat.
No harm, no scowl.